My husband is currently undergoing chemotherapy for brain cancer (surgery was in January followed by 6 weeks of radiation & now a year of chemo- we are 2 months in) and we are seriously considering starting a family fairly soon. We had planned on trying for a family this year any way but delayed until he got through surgery and we could kinda see how things would work out. He is doing very well tolerating his chemo and is practically healed from surgery. We would be unable to get pregnant by conventional methods at this point due to the risk of birth defects caused by the chemo medication but he banked some sperm prior to treatment which we would use to get pregnant via intrauterine insemination.
We have an appoinment later in June to discuss our options with an OB/GYN but my question is more of a moral one and less physical, would we be selfish to have a child right now? Hubby's cancer is grade III (on a scale of I-IV- IV being the worst) so we know recurrance is very likely but at what time & the severity is totally unknown. We don't want to let the cancer dictate our day to day lives and starting a family is something we both want very much. Honestly, I am ok being a single parent down the line if that's what it takes for us to enjoy this time together as a family and fulfill one of our life goals before it's too late.
What do you think? Should we wait? Go for it when we feel the time is right? I would just like any insight & opinions you feel relevant to our situation.