We have an 8 year old daughter, Willow. Her dad is Ben(32 yrs brain cancer). She started her first week of 3rd grade the same week Ben had his first seizure and then brain surgery. She was staying with family and did visit him once in the hospital. HE's now been through radiation. Inwhich she was very upset to find out that it didn't take the "purple thing" away. She has anxiety about him having seizures and that the cancer will grow and fill his head and he will die. Her words. So we are open and honest with her. We pretty much let her know what's going on and she talks to us when she needs to. I have her going to Kid Konnected a cancer support group for kids with sick parents. And she sees a counselor at school. Mostly in hope that she will get out what she needs to when she needs to.
How do you deal with the questions and help them not be scared all the time. It has affected her school work but overall considering what she's been through she's doing great! If I could take it away I would but this is our life. And I'm trying really hard to deal with it all. We now deal with Ben unable to work or drive. He can't be alone at home or with Willow, well I won't because I don't want her to be anxious that something may happen. And so the time Willow and I spent going out just on bike rides or to the store has dwindled. I am hoping Ben gets better to where we can do more.
She also takes most of her anger out on me. I try so hard to keep a calm quiet house, with NO stress. That is not easy with an 8 year old girl soon to be going through puberty! omg!