Hi, I'm not looking for dates here (I've got OKC for that) but I just thought I'd say that I feel extra lonely in that I'm not only single with cancer, I'm gay and nonbinary (gender-neutral trans). I had a girlfriend when I was diagnosed, and thankfully I'm still close to her and consider her one of my best friends, but it got to be too much because she lives two and a half hours away and the diagnosis made me even clingier than usual so I feel like I really can't do long distance, even "short" long distance, at this stage of my life especially. I need someone local, which for me is the Triangle region of North Carolina (I'm in Raleigh).
It's too easy for me to be down about myself because although I've found that women, and other gender-variant people, are sometimes not as judgmental about cancer, my orientation and gender do make my dating pool much smaller. I've cried a lot because I feel like I'm just TOO different and TOO difficult and should resign myself to loneliness. At least I hope by the summer to move into a different apartment (I live alone) where I can have a cat, and I definitely do think that will help.