One Year Later: Egg Harvesting, Struggling Mental Health

Hey guys,

At 21 I was diagnosed with a grade 2 astrocytoma in my left frontal lobe. May 2016 I had surgery and then a month later I was told I needed radiation and chemo. I was told if I did chemo I could become infertal and that was the one thing in life that I really really feared. I had to make a heartbreaking choice in 24 hours to have my eggs harvested or not to. I made the choice to freeze my eggs and a year later I still really struggling with what has happened. I get choked up when I bring it up, I think about it all the time. I feel alone knowing that I will probably not be able to have kids the natural way. Does anyone out there feel the same way?

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  • juls4juls4 Community Member
    It was similar for me when I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I was given 3 weeks to do the egg retrieval process. I tried to freeze embryos but unfortunately none of them survived to freezing. It was a huge shock and I felt so robbed of the natural process of having kids, but over time I adjusted to it. I wish there was something I could say or do to make the process easier for you, but I think it just takes time. First I was depressed about not having kids the natural way, then it became depression over not having any viable eggs and needing an egg donor, and now I'm Stage 4 and won't have children ever. The pain at every step of the cancer coping process is really tough and I feel for you. Anti-depressants really helped me be at peace and deal with the realities in a way that allowed me to feel sadness without being drowned in depression. Good luck, and hang in there!