Kids after Cancer???

I have two kids and I know I'm lucky to have them. They're adorable and wonderful and the absolute joy of my life. I've always wanted a large family, but now I'm scared. Has anyone out there had kids after treatment ended or considering more children? How did you get over the fear of recurrence?

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  • My husband Ben and I hAVe one daughter who is almost 9...and he was recently DX with brain cancer...and is now on tons O meds. I do not take any birth control as we have never gotten pregnant again since her, fertility issues. But I have a fear of getting pregnant now. You hear about side effects effecting women and pregnancy....but I fear that his meds could affect his sperm to be messed up and NOW I would some how get pregnant...that would be crazy on top of him getting worse. I'm not sure how people get over that kind of fear. I think you just have to live your life and do what makes you happy for as long as you are here on earth. :) I go back and forth about maybe getting my tubes tied so I officially will not...and at the same time with ben being sick...I don't know...how we would do it all.
  • Dia_MTDia_MT Community Member
    I have a 17 month old son and discovered I had cancer after he was born. I'm currently cancer free but struggle with the decision to have another child because of my high risk for recurrence. I think about it every day and it's such a heavy burden for any of us who have had cancer, had cancer, or is who's husband/wife has cancer. My doctors suggest I wait and proceed with caution. I struggle with it because I want to live my life as normal as possible (even though it'll never be as care-free as it was pre-cancer) and what I want is another child. I'm scared to go through with it though........I'm comforted knowing there are others struggling with this same decision.
  • xojessicaxojessica Community Member
    I have two kids right now. I would love to have more some day. But my oncologist says to wait at least a year post-treatment to even start trying. I have to do more research regarding my type of treatment and the effects it has on pregnancy/children/breastfeeding in the future. I have to also meet with a specialist to see if I am even able to have anymore children...

    I feel for ya though. Its a tough pill to swollow. I wish I had some better advice for you though, other than speaking with your doctor and doing some researching. Hugs to you! xo
  • LM819LM819 Community Member
    My biological son was 21 months old when I was diagnosed with breast cancer. He's almost 4 and I have another 3.5 years on Tamoxifen before I can even think about another. Since my tumor was estrogen receptor positive (and the data is inconsistent at best) I'm really nervous to try for another baby although I will still be young enough when I'm done with the Tamox (38). It's such a difficult decision!!!
  • I asked my orthopaedic oncologist and he never said yes but he never said no. I am still in my 1st year so have to have ct/mri every 3 months, but after talking to my OB GYN he said that after the 1st trimester I could have 1 CT during pregnancy. High risk OB doctor here I come.

    LM819 not to put a damper on things but when i worked in nursing i had a patient who had breast carcinoma in situ with her first pregnanct. She got pregnant 3 years later and it came back. Granted with the first bout with cancer all she had to do was radiation but after the second time had chemo and is on tamox.
  • I am a 3 time cancer survivor (NHL) and I am currently 9 months pregnant with my first child. I believe it will be my only child because pregnancy has been incredibly difficult on my body for a number of reasons, not all of which are cancer related. The baby, however, is healthy as far as we know and I can't wait to meet her. I do worry about what will happen if my cancer comes back, but I have a wonderful support system and I know my little girl will too. I will never regret the decision to have this child even if I don't get to live to see her grow up. She will still get to grow up. She'll have a loving father and a lot of other family and friends to look after her and help her. Her father and I never questioned whether we should do this or not. We both lost our mothers to cancer but we don't wish we weren't born because we had to suffer that loss. I do worry a little about what all the treatments have done to my body and how they could effect her, but I hope she'll have a good life regardless. This world is an amazing place and I can't wait to share it with her!
  • eileenbunny;5135 said:
    I am a 3 time cancer survivor (NHL) and I am currently 9 months pregnant with my first child. I believe it will be my only child because pregnancy has been incredibly difficult on my body for a number of reasons, not all of which are cancer related. The baby, however, is healthy as far as we know and I can't wait to meet her. I do worry about what will happen if my cancer comes back, but I have a wonderful support system and I know my little girl will too. I will never regret the decision to have this child even if I don't get to live to see her grow up. She will still get to grow up. She'll have a loving father and a lot of other family and friends to look after her and help her. Her father and I never questioned whether we should do this or not. We both lost our mothers to cancer but we don't wish we weren't born because we had to suffer that loss. I do worry a little about what all the treatments have done to my body and how they could effect her, but I hope she'll have a good life regardless. This world is an amazing place and I can't wait to share it with her!

    Congratulations!! I'm hoping as more time gets between me and my diagnosis I will be able to move forward, but time will tell. I really admire your attitude and I'm so happy for you! Children are a true blessing. Keep us posted on how everything goes. (I could use a good success story! ;))
  • Don't worry dear,Stress is not good for health.Cancer treatment causes may changes in the victims life but it is not a contagious disease.Chemotherapy patients cannot pass its side effect somebody else.But Radiation therapy can.
  • I ask the same question.. I'm a little different I don't have kids and do want them some day but I got diagnose last year Jan, 4,2010 at the age 25 of breast cancer stage 3a and in the process I did go see a fertily specialist and knew exactly what would happen after chemo therapy but at the time I couldn't afford freezing my eggs the stress was so bad I had to leave my job. I know a few girlfriends of mine that went through chemo therapy and two to three years down the line they had their children. I'm just a little afraid I had some blood work done by my fertily and my FSH came low which mean if I try having kids now it will be very difficult, hopefully that will change and have my beautiful kids that god will give me some day and healthy if not I always said I will adopt.
  • I had my baby and she is healthy and happy! She took her toll on me but we survived this far! I feel like we can do anything together.
  • eileenbunny;5511 said:
    I had my baby and she is healthy and happy! She took her toll on me but we survived this far! I feel like we can do anything together.

    YAY!!! Congratulations to all of you!! I'm soo immensely happy for you. Enjoy every second with her! They really do grow up fast.
  • MommaWillowMommaWillow Community Member
    edited October 26 Vote Up0Vote Down
    My husband wants to have another baby ,
    I’m now 30 and he’s 35 .
    We have a happy healthy 11 year old and two adopted boys that are 22 and 24 , we adopted my step brothers when my parents died .
    They have moved out after we paid for college and bought them cars , all our friends are having babies and he has the fever sooo bad ....... I secretly cry in the shower almost daily .
    I have had my cervix removed due to cancer and have been told I may not be able to conceive.