My husband and I have been together for 6 years. We were really good friends before we got together and had already been spending all of our time together so when we got married we ended up spending 24/7 together. This has never been a problem for us. However, it was never a problem for us to spend time apart either. We'd go out with friends (together or separately) and have separate hobbies. We liked spending the rest of our time together, but liked spending time apart too.
After he was diagnosed with cancer last year, that all changed. First there was the HUGE scare a few months before his diagnosis. He went in to the doc because he wasn't feeling well and his blood pressure was really, really high. He and the doc thought it was the testosterone he was on, so the doc told me I couldn't leave him for more than an hour at a time for the next two weeks while the meds worked their way out of his system. He was worried about a cardiac event happening so I needed to be there.
Then a few months later we found out about the cancer, and that the cancer was causing most of his symptoms. Given his age and the type of thyroid tumor the odds are about 96% that he'll beat it.
I know the odds are in our favor. I know that I need to have a life outside of my husband and work. I know that the world will not necessarily end if I don't constantly keep on the alert for something, anything that could go wrong.
But that scare and the 4% chance of something going wrong make me very, very anxious and clingy. I don't want to miss something that could be important, or have something go wrong and wish I had more time with him. So I spend every moment I have near him.
Am I the only one who is struggling with this? How does everyone else cope?