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  • If you scroll down you will see a section for children of parents with cancer: Hope this helps.
  • I understand how you feel. I often have often felt that I am living beyond my conscious will. That my inherent survival instinct is all that was driving me to continue. I think most people with cancer struggle with having feelings that do not mat…
  • rsh37: You have to feel it out. You have every right to wait as long as you need to tell someone. I recently started dating a woman, my first gf in more than 2 years. She has been really wonderful about it and actually sees my fight with cancer a…
  • You should call her. When I was diagnosed I had a friend that I hadn't spoken to in probably 3 years, but they had been a big part of my life and I knew that I had to reach out. I did and we remain friends to this day almost 4 years later. If thi…
  • Trying to explain all the emotions that come with a cancer diagnosis is incredibly difficult. It feels so overwhelming. I'm glad you have a boyfriend who wants your input in how to help you. It was so difficult talking with my girlfriend about ho…
  • Start slow and try to give yourself a break. You've been through a lot. Try just hanging out and getting to know people. Don't feel that you need to fall into something serious right away, let someone earn your trust. I have body issues as well …
  • There are a few options out there. I was prescribed opioids mainly. Others use cannabis. You should consult with your doctor and maybe ask about seeing a palliative (pain management) doctor. If you want to try to avoid opioids let your doctor kn…
  • "It could be worse" never made me feel better. I still do it, but it just makes you feel guilty for complaining. I always remind myself that I still had cancer, one of the scariest things that could ever happen to a person. You didn't choose to h…
  • Hey, I was diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer a few years ago. Each person can react differently to chemo, but for me the side effects were relatively minor. I was a little weaker and a little nauseous, sometimes loosing my apatite, but that was…
  • I get where you're coming from. It's hard getting through without friends who understand what it's like to go through all the garbage that comes with cancer. I also know that having to live with cancer is not really talked about. Most of what we …
  • Yes, it's incredibly difficult to come off treatment.  I was living my life under siege.  my life was defined by chemo, scans, check ups, etc.  I didn't have time to think about where I wanted to go with my life, I didn't even know how much of it I …
  • Yeah, waiting can be really brutal.  I've found it's hard, even after living with cancer for 3 years, to come to terms with the reality of the illness.  It's difficult to have a recurrence after things have been going well for a while.  Good luck, I…
  • No one is going to be upset with you about that.  It's a total plus, everyone loves cancer survivors!
  • Hello, I was diagnosed with rectal cancer as well a few years ago, I had a similar course of treatment.  I would be happy to talk to you about what it was like for me if you're interested.  Let me know.
  • I've never tried any alternatives, but my hospital has a department that specializes in homeopathic/alternative medicine.  I would start there, see if your hospital has that.  If not talk with your doctor or another trusted medical professional to s…
  • Yep you totally get it. What you described is everything I went through. I know it's impossible and terrifying, but as a friend once told me you are stronger than you think. Your blog was very well written, you are really in touch with what's goi…
  • It's a pain, but keep looking till you find a doctor that you feel comfortable with.  This can be frustrating, but it's important you advocate for yourself.  Also, remember, you don't know what this is yet.  There is no reason to feel bad about some…
  • I was diagnosed about 2 1/2 years ago and am still on maintenance chemo.  Shoot me a message if you want to talk.
  • I always recommend Imerman Angles ( ).  They will help you find someone with your diagnosis to talk to.
  • I lost a friend, and have cancer myself, but I can't say that I've been through what you have.  I know what it's like to be full of rage and feel lost.  There's an organization called Imerman Angles, they can help you find someone who has been throu…
    in Sister Comment by xoldcorex August 2015
  • It's funny I was just about to write a post exactly like this.  It's really weird that cancer can become normalized.  I think most people just expect you to be nothing but exhilarated that you've beat cancer, but there's more to it.  You've been thr…
  • Immerman Angles is the big peer mentoring organization ( ).  Also look into organizations that are specific to your cancer.  I know the colon cancer alliance has a buddy program, others may have their own too.
    in Pen pals Comment by xoldcorex June 2015
  • I went to the emergency room late one night with a high fever while I was on chemo.  As the nurse was helping me settle I mentioned that I'm vegan.  The first thing out of her mouth was "Well that didn't help?"